Kemi Omololu-Olunloyo , daughter of erstwhile governor of Oyo State, Victor Omololu Olunloyo, who is renowned for her controversial statements has dropped yet another bombshell, this time on women and sexuality.
The media personality disclosed that she doesn’t have libido for sex and advised women who were circumcised to resort to sex toys instead of relying on men for sexual satisfaction that they will eventually not enjoy.
The 52-year-old observed that most African women especially in Nigeria often shy away from discussing their experience about Female Genital Mutilation, FGM.
She made the disclosure during a chat with IBTimes UK where she talked about the harmful and discriminatory practices on women, children and other persons, especially with regard to the increasing wave of violence against women, such as rape, sexual assault.
The US-trained journalist disclosed that she and her sister underwent the FGM at a very tender stage adding that she has been celibate for 10 years.
According to Kemi, “Only the Ijebus people across the Yorubaland where I am from in Nigeria don’t do it at all”.
In her words: “There was no anaesthetic and a sharp razor blade was used. I remember my sister and I screaming afterwards. We went home bleeding in diapers and, for a week, it was like we were little girls with menstrual periods. My mom was bathing us and diapering us. Deep down, mom was not happy for some reason.
“After years of resentment towards her mother, I finally confronted her in 2012. She burst into tears telling me that our late paternal grandmother ordered my dad to have us do it.
“This tradition is over 70-years-old. Our grandmother was a traditional Muslim woman who dictated many rules to her young son, my dad.
“Some women and girls, who undergo FGM, have their entire genitalia cut and “sewn closed.” My genitalia were only partially removed, meaning I did not experience difficulties while giving birth, however, the psychological and physical consequences of the mutilation still linger in my life.
“Calling it an operation is nothing. It was a cultural barbaric act used to decrease the female libido. It caused me post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) for life.
“I don’t experience orgasm during sex and when I tried to promote the use of sex toys among Nigerian women, men started attacking me saying I was discouraging African women ‘from the real thing’.
“Sex is not important. I have no libido or urge to have sex and I’ve been celibate for 10 years. Millions of women in Nigeria go through this, but they cannot talk or be outspoken like me. It is shameful and a disgrace to them.
“Many women say they fake orgasms and others have husbands who go out to prostitutes and girlfriends. FGM has destroyed marriages here.
“My message to girls who have been through it is to stay strong and get into support groups. Its better to educate girls about sex education the right way, instead of cutting part of their genitals off causing a lifelong traumatic problem.”
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